A few years ago, I was in a pretty serious car accident. During the aftermath, I became really familiar with a lot of different types of lawyers. I worked with personal injury lawyers, insurance lawyers, and many others. Perhaps the most important, though, was the estate planning lawyer. I was really young, and neither my wife or I had thought about starting a will. But the accident kind of scared us into it. What would happen if one of us were to die? Even when still in the hospital, I was working with the lawyer to draw up a will. Now, I have some peace and security about what the future will be like if something should happen to me. And I have a lot of experience working with various types of lawyers! The accident was kind of a blessing in disguise in that way.
A visitation schedule outlines how you can share your child's time with the other parent. However, it may not specify how you are supposed to act in every little imaginary situation. For example, it may be up to you to come up with visitation plans over the holidays to avoid conflicts. The tips below will help you navigate the holidays without requiring court intervention:
Define Your Holidays
The first step is to define your holidays so that everybody recognizes them. You don't want the other parent to start wondering why you haven't prepared a kid for a holiday when you least expect it. Include all the national, religious, end year holidays, and any others that both of you deem as important. Prepare to compromise; your spouse may prefer celebrating Veteran's Day to the Fourth of July, but that doesn't mean they are wrong.
Decide Where the Kids Will Be For Each Holiday
The next step after that is to decide who will have the kids for each of the holidays. This is not only for your benefit as parents but also for your kid's benefit. For example, you don't want the teenagers to start planning for Christmas activities with their friends in one state only to be told at the last minute that they will be out of state. Of course, you should also be ready to compromise when unforeseen circumstances complicate your plans at the last minute. For example, one of you may fall sick or lose a family member; adopting an understanding attitude at such times can go a long way in making your post-divorce interactions as smooth as possible.
Consider Alternating or Splitting the Holidays
For holidays that each of you hold dear, consider alternating the holidays so that the parent who gets the children this year forgoes them next year. If you consider Christmas a big deal, it would be unreasonable to expect the kids at your place for several consecutive years. If you live close to one another, and both of you don't have holiday travel plans, you can even consider splitting the holiday. For example, one parent can have the kids from Christmas Eve to Christmas morning before the other parent picks them up.
The above are just suggestions; whatever works for you is best. However, don't avoid going to court at all costs for the sake of peace; that would be a false peace. Consult a custody or family lawyer, such as Susan M Caplin, if the other parent insists on an unreasonable visitation schedule or constantly breaks your agreements.Share
16 September 2016